Relationships have a lot of give and take. But even with compromise, no relationship is perfect. As much as people want to be everything their partners could ask for, and always be understanding, there will always be things that bother both people. When women discuss men, it tends to always be about the same thing: men don’t listen, they never understand and they do things that they know will make a girl mad.
Collectively, women think women are right and that men just do not understand. In all honesty, it’s true for the majority of men: they don’t understand us. The mindset of a woman is just different.
Men usually claim that women complain too much, that they are too emotional and they immerse themselves in unnecessary drama. Men tend to not see events in the same light as women and they won’t. Men prefer not to give small issues attention and do not become as worked-up about the faults of other people. They are a bit more easygoing and don’t analyze situations in the same way that women do.
No one will ever have or be the perfect mate. I feel like everyone has standards for the person with whom they envision themselves. They try to find someone that best fits the mold. Males and females have different needs and no one is ever going to be 100 percent satisfied with all the aspects of their relationships, but if the person you have chosen to be with is worth the time, then patience and understanding need to play a big role.
Another thing I feel like both sexes need to realize is that we cannot put our significant others on a pedestal. Our expectations are too high. Putting people on a pedestal will only heighten the aspects of a relationship that people do not like. If women would realize that men are pretty simple and don’t look into things the way they do, then understanding them a bit more wouldn’t be like pulling teeth.
Likewise, if men realized that females will always be slightly more emotional and try not do not take things as lightly as women do, then men would find females to be less complicated.
They will finally see that we will always have different views about things and that telling us, “It‘s not a big deal,” is not always the best route to take when trying to comfort women.
We are all human and we all make mistakes and have our pet peeves, but we are also nowhere near perfect. Neither sex should expect the other one to be.
Take your lovers off the pedestal and step back into reality. Everything will be okay.
Dominique C. Barchus can be reached at dominique.barchus@spartans.ut.edu.
Great article Dom. I couldn’t agree more.
This is a good article on the differences in the mindset of men and women and we view things in a relationship and life. your writing is growing with every article that you write keep up the great work on informing us on love and Life.