Sex With the Ex: People Seek Comfort Over Holiday Break By Heating Up Old Flames

With Thanksgiving break over and done with, we now have a few short weeks before the long winter break. Something many college singles may do over winter break will be their ex’s.

Dear Eric,
Every break I find myself falling back into the beds of my old boyfriends. During this recent break I did the same. As soon as I got home my phone vibrated with a booty text from an old hookup.
He wanted me to watch a movie, but everyone knows what that means—you watch ten minutes and his hand is in your pants.
I felt like maybe I shouldn’t go, but I went anyway. I feel kind of guilty leading him (and a few others) on. I don’t want to him to expect sex every time I’m on break.
Sincerely,
Back Home Booty

Dear Back Home Booty,
You do not have to worry about your hometown romp at all.
It is totally normal. If you are single or in a non-monogamous relationship, I see zero issue with having a little nostalgic fun with an old flame.

Of course, this definitely depends on the person or persons you are keeping up the heat with.
If the ex was clingy and overpowering during the relationship, ex-sex probably isn’t the best idea. If he wasn’t clingy, then go for it. The holidays have family, food, shopping, and unbelievably cold temperatures, so going to “watch a movie” may be a much needed break from the strain of the holiday season.

You should make sure that your booty call is exactly that, a booty call. Make it clear that this is not a recurring event. Then you won’t feel as guilty.
Keep in mind that ex-sex isn’t for everybody.

While many people enjoy it, some cannot hook-up without becoming attached to their partner, especially if past feelings are involved.
That may be the source of your guiltiness.

Make sure you follow your gut.
Don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

Stay Safe!

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