Dear Eric,
I live in the City of “Philthery” Love. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I’m having a hard time finding anything but “kamikazes” (boy grenades). Why is it I can’t find any hot boys in college? On a side note, I have an issue with boys who don’t wear condoms with sexual partners. Look here, buddy, if you’re sticking your foot-long in my pocket, I can’t trust that you’re not doing the same thing with every other girl on campus. Have some respect, okay bra? I don’t need your filthy STDs. Sorry, but no glove, no love. What is your input on condoms? Why is it so hard for some men to put one on their penis? There are ones out there that are created to be extra sensitive. Personally, I think boys are just being lazy.
Sincerely,
Phils Phan
Dear Phils Phan,
A trip to warm and sunny Tampa should be on your to-do list; skin is still in for a few more weeks here. The chilly fall season of Philly may be bringing these “kamikazes” out of hibernation. Maybe you simply aren’t looking in the right places.
Switch up your routine, join a new gym, shop at a different grocery store, try some new bars. If a guy who isn’t your type is putting himself out there, give him a try. You may be surprised.
As for my opinion on condoms, I always advocate safe sex. Especially when you are seeing multiple new people, you want to make sure your guy is wearing one. Condoms are 99.9 percent effective for pregnancy prevention, and if you are also on the pill the risk is even less. Many people forget that condoms are also an effective tool in preventing most STDs.
It’s great that you already enforce the adage, “no glove, no love.” Buy a pack of the ultra-thin condoms you mentioned, and keep them on hand. If your partner puts up a fight, hand him one; it may change his mind.
Send your anonymous love, sex and relationship questions to Eric at ezornUT@gmail.com. Make sure your subject box contains the word, “UTampa.”
For even more information about staying safer between the sheets visit the Planned Parenthood website of FAQ’s about safer sex.
Have Questions? Send your sex, love and relationship questions to Eric Zorn at ezornUT@gmail.com. Make sure your subject box contains the word, “UTampa.”
Make sure that you are always practicing safe sex. For even more information about staying safer between the sheets visit the Planned Parenthood website of FAQ’s about safer sex.
He has a point. The Minaret is definitely lacking in balanced and factually accurate content. Maybe these issues should be addressed.
Eric and Phils Phan,
FYI, condoms are not 99.9% effective at preventing pregnancy. For the perfect-user, they are 98% effective. For the typical user they are only 85% effective. Planned Parenthood’s website provides those statistics. Before you provide advice, you should make sure you have your facts straight.
Best,
Ryan