Having friends as an adult is hard, especially if they are people you don’t get to see often. Life gets so crazy and hectic that it can be months without seeing close friends, whether that’s because some live in a different city or have a demanding job.
During the holiday season is usually when you miss friends the most, with memories of past years being at the forefront of your mind. Friendsgiving is a nice way for everyone to come together and have fun.
Friendsgiving has become more popular over the years where friends celebrate Thanksgiving. Google searches for “friendsgiving” started increasing exponentially after November of 2013, according to an article by The Atlantic.
Unlike Thanksgiving, there is no specific date for it. It can be the same day as Thanksgiving, but it’s commonly celebrated a week before or after so people can still attend dinner with their own family. The menu can consist of what anyone wants. There is no right or wrong thing to have nor are you expected to have a turkey.
Instead of having a traditional Thanksgiving dinner, it’s becoming more common to celebrate it in other ways. For example, Bricia Lopez stated in an article by mindbodygreen that she’s planning to do an outdoors event. She plans to take her friends hiking and have a meal on Malibu Creek. It’s a fun little twist to the usual festivities.
Incorporating something new can be fun. Tie dyeing t-shirts, playing volleyball, board games, or painting can be an entertaining way to pass the time instead of just eating. Creating a relaxing and inviting environment will lead to a nice evening to catch up.
With the holiday season around the corner, people are spending more time with close family. For those that don’t have a healthy relationship with family members, it can be lonely seeing social media posts about others spending quality time together.
Something about this time of year just triggers a need for emotional connection. It could be the temperature getting colder or the days getting shorter, but it is not uncommon to want to be surrounded by people who you love and who love you. Friendsgiving is an opportunity for those that don’t have family to be included in the celebrations.
We often think of family as people who share the same DNA as us, which isn’t always the case. I have family that I don’t consider friends and friends that I consider family. I can’t imagine my life without them in it. They have been there for me at my lowest and support my decisions during life changing moments.
Celebrating them is important because it lets them know that they’re family, too, and you care about them enough to have a day dedicated to them. They are the family that you choose to have in your life because you want them to. We can’t pick our family, but we can certainly pick our friends.
Thanksgiving is a holiday to give thanks for what you have in your life, so give thanks to those that are in it.