She Said vs. He Said: Which Sex Should Take Charge?

SHE SAID:

expected: men ask women out. Life is not a Sadie Hawkins dance. It works because it gives women a chance to see the confidence of a man (not to be confused with arrogance) who is willing to put himself “out there.”

A certain amount of bravery is required. Not every man is ready and willing to break through the protective circle of best friends to get to the girl inside.

There is always the looming possibility of rejection that hovers over any attempt to make contact.

As long as the first impression doesn’t scream “stalker,”these attempts often work in favor for the man, leaving a strong first impression that stirs excitement for a first date.

On the other hand, we live in the age of empowered women. Whether it’s women on top of their own business or simply woman-on-top, we’ve taken control — a fact that is becoming more and more attractive to men.

“I find women who go out and get what they want sexy,” said freshman Bobby Goodman. “I just don’t like girls that aren’t too hard to get. If they give a little challenge, it’s sexy.”

But don’t relax just yet, gentlemen; there is still a large population of women that want to be wooed, courted, swept off their feet. From day one, most girls have been taught the rule “let him come to you.”

So if you see a girl down the hall, across the cafeteria or circling the club who keeps eyeing you with a sultry smile, go after her. Chances are, she’ll find your assertiveness appealing.

“It definitely says a lot about a guy if he makes the first move,” said freshman Jorgia Stone. “But I’m confident enough that when I like a guy, I have no problem asking him out. Sometimes you just have to take charge.”

But even men who claim they make the first move rarely go in “for the kill” without a little assurance.

When asked what gives him the confidence to approach a woman, sophomore Dan Leydon said,  “I’d definitely say if she keeps making eye-contact with you and gives you a little smile.”

So maybe the girl really is the one to make the first move, even if it’s just with her eyes. I But come on, guys: cowboy up. If you really want her, go get her.

Hannah Webster can be reached at hannahkarine31@gmail.com.