Dear Eric,
Lately my relationship has taken a turn for the boring.
I was thinking of spicing things up with my boyfriend and I thought that introducing sex toys might be the perfect way to do so. The problem here is…how exactly do I do that without making him feel inadequate?
He must know that we have fallen into a routine and I am hoping that he will react positively. There is always a chance that he won’t.
So, how do I ease him into something like this? Please help!
Thanks in advance,
Adding “Friends” to the Mix
Dear “Friends”
There are many ways to spice up your sex life with your partner, some may need batteries.
His feelings of inadequacy are definitely justified.
However there are many non-invasive toys you can buy, some you may already have lying around the house.
Since you are worried about how he will react it is best to pursue the light, non-invasive path. You can buy a non-phallic bullet vibrator that he can control, and it won’t bruise his ego. For something you don’t need to buy, find an old towel, shred it to a few pieces and try some light bondage.
Sometimes toys will come in a couple’s starter kit. Find a kit where a part of the kit goes into sexual health education.
Many adult stores provide pamphlets on sex toys and sexual health, this information could help your boyfriend understand toys aren’t such a rare practice.
Eventually these light options will help him warm up to some more erotic toys.
Good luck!
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